'No, you're not a bridesmaid': Woman thinks she should automatically be in the wedding party because her boyfriend is the best man

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    Posted by u/AITA_bridesmaid24 1 day ago 3 AITA for telling someone she wasn't a bridesmaid?
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    This happened today and my fiance, my fiances best friend and his girlfriend all think I'm an as ole now.
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    My fiance and I got engaged last month and the first thing I did after the excitment wore off was ask my 3 closest friends to be my bridesmaids. Including my best friend as the maid of honor. They all
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    said yes and I was pretty okay with having a smaller bridal party. My husband of course asked his best friend to be his best man. Some more context
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    here is that I'm not particularly close with my fiances best friend's girlfriend. They've been together for 2 years but most of that they lived in another state. So I've
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    only ever actually hung out with her one other time. Today we went over to their house so my fiance can pick something up from his best friend and the subject of our
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    wedding came up. She asked me what color the bridesmaids dresses were gonna be and when she should show up to go shopping for them. I asked
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    what she meant by that and she said that she wanted to clear it on her schedule with work. I got silent for a second and she said "Well, because I'm gonna be in the wedding right?" And I told her, honestly
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    probably a little harsher than I should have, "No, you're not a bridesmaid" everyone got quiet and we left fairly quickly after that. My fiance told me that I should just let her be a bridesmaid. His best friend is
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    texting him saying shes devastated. I just don't know her that well, and I'm not comfortable with a stranger being in my wedding party. AITA?
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    EDIT: My fiance didn't say or infer that she was gonna be a bridesmaid. She literally cooked that up herself, or maybe her boyfriend told her idk. Thank you so much, I'm so glad other people thought her assumption was bizarre.
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    Apparently has a habit of throwing monumental tantrums over weird stuff. My fiance was trying to avoid the huge fallout and subsequently the his bf's girlfriend
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    huge backlash she would try to create by asking me to just appease her. I put my foot down and said she can either come as a guest or not at all.
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    He told me it was my Decision and he'll let his friend know. We haven't heard anything yet from them but I'm waiting for the tantrum. Wish me luck
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    Update 2: So she is throwing a tantrum. The best man is texting my fiances other friends about the situation. He's day of she has been crying about it and I was
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    unnecessarily r de and intentionally leaving her out because I'm jealous. Nobody is taking it though. I'm still standing my ground and we're rethinking the groomsmen now.
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    · dutchy81 1 day ago Aficionado [18] NTA, you don't even know her. You have seen her a couple of times. Why would she assume she would be your bridesmaid? 5.5k Reply Share
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    AITA_bridesmaid24 OP · 1 day ago I'm assuming she thought that because her boyfriend is in the wedding she would be? But other than that I have no idea. I've literally only talked to her twice.
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    ckptry 1 day ago Supreme Court Just [115] NTA that is a bizarre presumption on her part, and her bf texting your fiancé that she is devastated so they can coerce her way into the wedding party is just as bad. It's too bad your fiancé can't just speak up and say they've don't know each other and we're having a small bridal party. Reply Share 1.6k
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